Let me tell y’all younguns about menopause.
Definition according to Wikipedia: also known as climacteric, is the time when menstrual periods permanently stop marking the end of a human females reproductive stage.
All the online definitions of menopause define it as an end, and end of reproductive capacity, an end of menstruation, an end of periods.
And we’ve internalised that definition. We see it as an end.
Some years ago I went to the hospital for food poisoning. The doctor decided to do an abdominal scan. While he was scanning he decided to look at my repro organs (I no ask am o but whatever.) He told me I was ceasing menstruation. I was so happy. He was surprised.
‘I never had a woman express joy that she was entering menopause.’
Well, I’m not your typical woman, am I? I was glad to be done with the monthly bleeding!
Me and a friend of mine had even been complaining that all our friends of the same age and even younger were ceasing their monthly bleeding and we weren’t. Yet.
So I was glad. I was happy. And soon as I got the first troublesome symptoms I spoke to my ayurveda therapist and she gave me some ayurveda remedies that pretty much eliminated all of them. My transition was easy but not unnoticed.
First thing I realised was how profoundly the decrease in estrogen and progesterone affected me. Suddenly, I wasn’t horny all the time.
That made me realise how profoundly the start of puberty must have affected me. O boy! 
We don’t prepare our daughters nearly enough for that hormonal onslaught.
Its been more than 5 years now so I’m fully menopausal. While I try not to be too judgy I honestly wonder about older women that struggle to delay menopause and stay reproductively active.
It’s a relief to me in more ways than one.
I’m like the whales now. Ready to take up leadership because I can see it was my hormones that got in the way before. Just like all you younguns all I had on my mind was sex, men and relationships.
I describe menstruation as a females body demanding to be impregnated. Yep. Thats how it feels. Thats why I never paid mind to all them people insisting men were the sexually uncontrollable ones.
Once a month, like clockwork, estrogen and progesterone make a womans body ready to carry a baby. It’s a biological imperative. Nothing to do with any training or upbringing. She is literally like a b*tch in heat.
Imagine how strong the socialisation has to be for her to override that biology. But do we give credit? Nah. Most cultures demonise her.
I’m in my power now. I can look at a fine boy, and waka pass! I can focus on what needs to be done for the better of my household, my family, my community and even my nation. Pheromones don’t trigger me anymore.
Watch out. This is the real feminine power. While young women and men are still ruled by hormones. I have clear vision.
I belive its why society demonised and problematised menopause. They tell you its tough and a natural part of aging so you give in to despair. Older women always writing upandan about becoming invisible, feeling powerless and unattractive.
Me? I’m relieved for the decreasing sexual obsession and attention. Maybe I can now relate with men as a person, as a human being and not just as sexual objects. (Yeah, I objectified them too.)
I don’t miss the attention. It was a burden. But I get it. For women who’ve been socialised all their life to get and keep a man its scary. And for men who need to control women its scary.
It’s your power woman! You’re not crazy. Claim it. Lean into it. Do not be afraid.
(And if that man want to go, let him go!)
Redefine #menopause. Its not the end of reproductive stage, its the beginning of the rest of your life, in clarity and power.
We got work to do.
Peace 
MzAgams 